How many times haven’t we heard “dogs are far better than cats, because dogs care about their owners, while cats don’t” or “Cats are egoistical self centered creatures”. Here I have written 12 points showing you that’s far from the truth.
Cats communicate very different from dogs and this is where the misunderstanding occurs. Once you understand the language of the cat, not only will you be surprised how loving they are, but also how intelligent these amazing creatures are.
Sign #1 – Affectionate Purring
Purring can mean many things among cats in general. But a specifically loud purr can indicate that your cat loves you very much. A cat’s purr has healing abilities, it helps the cat to relax and it shows the cat is content. When our cats are very happy, they alter their purr to a higher pitch. RSPCA cat Angel and our own cats Felicia, Tiger and Nusse have very distinct purrs of happiness.
Sign #2 – Love Bites
Have you ever noticed that your cat suddenly bites you gently or gives a gentle nibble? No, your cat hasn’t suddenly grown an appetite for human flesh, it is actually showing affection towards you.
The cat shows it’s affection by gently biting your hand or any other body part after a cuddle. Normally these bites do not hurt.
Kira does this all the time with me after I have given her a round of cuddles. She will normally lie herself down on our bed revealing her stomach. After a stomach rub, she will proceed with grabbing my hand with her paws and pulls it up to her fangs giving me a gentle nibble.
Sign #3 – Kneading
You have probably felt the cats kneading their paws into your skin sometimes with their claws. As painful as it might be, kneading is actually a sign of affection. The cat is not trying to hurt you, they simply don’t understand that their claws hurt us.
Kittens knead on their mothers when they are trying to extract milk from them. It is a normal instinct of a cat. It shows the cat is safe in your presence, as it was when it was with its mother.
Sign #4 – Revealing Weak Spots
Cats have a funny way to gain your attention. One of the methods is to throw themselves on their back and exposing their stomach or throat to you. This actually means the cats loves you very much and they trust you. You should be honoured, as these places are their weak spots. A cat would normally never do this.
Sign #5 – Eye Contact
Some say that cats greet or blow kisses with their eyes. This is actually very true. Cats are very reserved who they share eye contact with, without feeling threatened. So when your cat looks at you and blinks slowly towards you, than that is actually a sign of affection and they are greeting you.
You can return the favour or acknowledge their affection by simply blinking carefully and slowly back at them. This is a good trick if you have a nervous cat around and you want to show to it that you mean no harm.
Sign #6 – Body Contact
When a cat strokes or butts its head into your body is a sign of ultimate affection. Cats have special glands in their face that produce pheromones, which we normally can’t smell. You could say they are claiming you in a non-aggressive and loving way. The same thing happens when a cat runs up to you and rubs their body up to your legs. It’s another sign of affection.
Sign #7 – A Friendly Lick
Another funny way how they show affection is when a cat attempts to lick or groom your body. My foster RSPCA cat Angel and Chanel lick me on the nose or my hand. Tiger puts his arms around me and gives me a kiss on my cheek while purring happily away when I pick him up.
Some cats go as far as grooming the humans hair. A few cats have done that to me such as foster cat Angel and a friends’ cat named Miepje. I personally think this is another sign of ultimate affection between cat and human.
Sign #8 – Gifts
You have probably seen them: Dead animals at your door step or outside your bedroom door or somewhere else inside your house or perhaps even beside your car. This is actually an offering that the cat brings you. It’s a sign of true love. The cat is showing that it loves you so much that it doesn’t want us to starve. As annoying or upsetting this may be, please don’t tell it off. It is only looking after your well-being. Instead you should reward the cat with treats and cuddles.
Tiger and Kira bring me dead animals all the time. They can get very lovely by delivering right in front of me and demanding me to eat it! Once upon a time Tiger threw a dead animal on our bed while we were asleep!
I would prefer if my cats would bring me money instead of dead animals, but however upsetting it is, I am still grateful and feel fortunate that my cat does this to me.
Sign # 9 – Raising Tails
The tail is an amazing body part of the cat. Not only does it serve as a means to keep their balance, but it is a perfect indication of the cats mood. We will go into that in another article but for now we will say that when a cat raises its tail skyward, it means the cat is very happy to see you. It can even indicate the cat wants you to follow. When a cat curls it’s body around you and wraps their tail around their body it truly means the cat loves you very much.
Sign # 10 – Stalking
When a cat is hopelessly in love with you, it will follow you around no matter where you go. Even proceed with sharing or stealing your bed from you. Nusse used to follow me all over the house. When I did work or write on my computer, she used to sit there and demand to sit on my lap.
Foster cat Angel does this from time to time too. Tiger loves to sit on my lap when I am playing on my Playstation 4, while Chanel loves to rub her body into my face when I am busy. This is another sign of ultimate affection.
Sign # 11 – Communicating and Trilling
It isn’t natural for a cat to mew or communicate by sound. Normally cats communicate with their body language, but they have learned to adapt to humans who are sometimes too stupid to notice the body language. Hence they communicate to us by the use of sound.
The cats language to humans is tailored to their own human. My cat’s love to mew when they want to get my attention. When I go for walks, they mew like mad, asking me not to leave them. When I return home they run up to me, trilling at me. Trilling is the sound of a purr combined with a mew.
They learned this from their mother early on in their lives. When a cats trills at you they are really welcoming you or showing they are very happy to see you. Trilling can be combined with the skyward tail.
Sign #12 – Responding To Their Name
If your cat actually also responds to the calling of their name, you got very far in your connection with cats. They can respond by trilling, mewing and always immediately raise their tale’s when they hear their name. When I am looking around for a missing cat, I call for their name in the neighbourhood. I often hear a mew in the distance. The next moment the cat runs towards us at top speed.
There are many more signs of affection that cats show. Some of them can be rather personal and are often different per cat, but as you see I covered the basics.
Have you noticed any signs of affection with your cats? Please share them in the comments below!